Y. Dawne, Content Blogger, Diploma in Journalism, Amsterdam, Netherlands
Answered Feb 07, 2019
The main reason why men have to do the majority of making the first move is gender roles are still a thing. Societies adhering to them so strongly makes it hard for women who disregard those roles. A lot of women would love to be more proactive when it comes to finding a partner, including being the one to make the first move. The problem is that a lot of guys react badly to women who make the first move.
Some guys assume far more interest than women actually have because she’s the one making the first move. Women never do that. Others get angry because she must be too easy, trying to trick them or just existing. The other reason why women don’t approach is because they’re dealing with all the same anxieties and fears men are.
Sometimes more so because guys don’t get hit with the social “no-no” of being seen as easy and/or an incipient troublemaker for being the person to actually make the first move.
There are still a lot of women who feel that they should not make the first move when they find a guy interesting. There are some guys who get turned off by women whom they feel may come on “too strong” for them. Women do not want to waste their time. Women also know that men think differently from them.
Men are expected to be more assertive than women. The more assertive they are, the more that they will know if they have a chance with the women that they are trying to pursue. Do remember that there are some men now who find it interesting and hot when women make the first move.